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Topic: Dale Pond
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Hi Everyone, This post is in response to those having difficulties with others and perhaps life in general. I have been experiencing a tiny yet powerful revelation these past few weeks. It concerns the nature of why we seem to have difficulties in life and with each other. This revelation has support from diverse sources such as the Bible, A Course in Miracles, our SVP discussions, other noteworthy sources and just plain common sense. Everyone has had difficulties with someone else. And that, we think, is where our difficulty comes in. Many sources tell us it is not possible to have difficulties with another person because, they say, we can only have difficulties with ourselves. The apparent difficulty with another is an illusion. The dynamic of this seeming paradox works something like this: We find we are in a contentious relation with someone or perhaps in the past. They do, say or act in a way that rubs the wrong way or in some minor or major fashion causes us to feel uncomfortable or uneasy or even violently opposed to that which we think we perceive in their actions, words or mannerisms. So we blame them for making us uncomfortable, uneasy or reacting negatively in return. What is actually happening is we are upset with our own reactions to that perceived. We perceive what we perceive and label that perception good, bad or whatever. We cannot interact with anything coming at us - we can only intereact with the perception of it - which of course is wholly in our own minds or consciousness. Any negativity we may perceive is only and can only be in our own minds. If there is a negative reaction to that perceived we are creating that reaction of our own accord, volition and creation. The other person is "out there" doing their own thing, living their own life. They are but actors on our stage of life. They are props and mirrors in supporting roles of the play we create. Every get angry at an inanimate object? It can do nothing but be the object it is. The anger comes from within our reactions and actions of our own thinking. Therefore you are not angry at the object - you are angry at your own thoughts about the object. Because that is all there is for you to tangle with - your own thoughts concerning your perceptions. When the ACIM says you can never be angry at what you think you are angry at - you can only be angry at your own thoughts. Which you yourself created, consciously or unconsciously. And this function of our minds seems to be at the crux of all the diverse situations we find ourselves in. Indeed it can be no other way. A person can only be who they are. An object can be only what it is. You are altogether another center of life. Life then takes on a make-believe film wherein we are director, star actor and script writer. There can be no tangling with the Tar Baby unless we WILL it so. When confronted with a person who we deem to have caused us discomfort the ego will automatically project our negative reactive thinking unto that person. We blame them for x, y and z. When in reality we created a negative reaction in our minds to the perceived situation and not liking what we have created project that negative feeling onto the innocent ("murdering the innocent"). The world, everyone and everything is your world, is innocent. But the ego lives in terror and can know only terror of the outside world. It HAS to condemn the innocent world so it can justify its un(w)holy existence. Therefore everyone and everything to the ego is perceived as a threat to its existence. It HAS to condemn the world, it feels, as a manner or mechanism of survival. To see this phenomenon of your mental functions requires keen observation and tremendous honesty. Most people can do neither as their egos tend to refuse to see the obvious and refuse to be self-assessing especially when it feels threatened. It is far easier to DENY the validity of this phenomena and blame the innocent other. We make a beginning by asking our selves WHY we are upset with such and such a perception? WHY am I afraid? Where in my beliefs is my fear coming from? Why? This self-questioning breaks the logger jam of denial and vicious cycle of blaming the innocent fro our own deeds/thoughts. It is possible to overcome both these crippling aspects of denial and blame by 1) realizing you create your life and 2) all that you have created you created for your benefit. This approach turns it all around and we become THANKFUL for all that occurs because we did it for our own benefit. With this open and honest approach and perspective the linch-pin connecting to fear and the "need" to blame is shattered. When ACIM says "foregive the world my quilt" this is what they are saying. When the churches say "Jesus foregives your sins" this is what is meant. We release ourselves from our own self-condemnetions, negative judgements and guilt. When we foregive ourselves our attacks on the innocent world we are freed of our own self-condemnations. Because that is what we have done. We have condemned ourselves with our negative reactions and projected that negativity onto the innoncent world. By foregiving ourselves of our own condemnations the world is freed and so are you. The world becomes, in our minds what it already is, non-threatening and a comfortable and loving place to be. |
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